How to Love a Difficult Man

by Nancy Good

ISBN: 0312001347
ISBN-13: 9780312001346
Format: Hardcover

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Publisher: St Martins Pr
Published date: 1987

Publisher's Notes

A psychologist explores why women are attracted to problem men and offers practical and specific suggestions for making life with a difficult man less troublesome.

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