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Why Boys Don't Talk--And Why It Matters: A Parent's Survival Guide to Connecting
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Why Boys Don't Talk--And Why It Matters: A Parent's Survival Guide to Connecting with Your Teen Paperback - 2004 - 1st Edition

by Susan Morris Shaffer; Linda Perlman Gordon


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Helps parents reopen the lines of communication with "silent" teenage sons and stay emotionally connected with them

Adolescent boys are notoriously uncommunicative. Unfortunately, too many parents equate not talking with not feeling, and, as authors Susan Morris Shaffer and Linda Perlman Gordon explain in this groundbreaking guide, parents who make that assumption end up validating only the most superficial aspects of their sons. Recent bestsellers such as Real Boys and The Wonder of Boys have done a good job of sensitizing parents to the inner lives of boys and opening their eyes to how society shortchanges boys emotionally.

Now, Why Boys Don't Talk--and Why It Matters goes a step further. Coauthored by a nationally acclaimed expert on gender equity and a social worker--both of whom successfully raised teenagers of both sexes--it:

  • Arms parents with proven techniques for communicating with their adolescent sons and reestablishing strong emotional bonds with them
  • Draws upon focus groups as well as the authors' considerable experience in gender equity research and counseling, to analyze the subtle ways boys communicate connection

First line

It matters because when boys don't talk, we assume that they don't feel.

From the rear cover

"This wise and warm book encourages mothers not to let their sons become unemotional robots but instead to stay connected."
--Michael Kimmel, professor of sociology, SUNY Stony Brook

"Shaffer and Gordon shed light on the cultural reasons boys frequently don't talk and then show how to encourage conversation and when to respect the necessary silences."
--Laura Sessions Stepp, author of Our Last Best Shot: Guiding Our Children Through Early Adolescence

Whatever happened to that chatty little boy brimming with quirky facts and interminable accounts of his adventures? When did your son grow into the sullen stranger in your house who communicates through shrugs and one-word answers? Is this just part of growing up or is it a sign that something is wrong?

In Why Boys Don't Talk--and Why It Matters, Susan Morris Shaffer and Linda Perlman Gordon draw on their professional and personal experiences to provide answers to those common questions. You'll discover why adolescent boys often feel the need to protect themselves behind a wall of silence and why it's important to your son's emotional health to break through that wall. Most important, you'll gain the knowledge and tools you need to:

  • Recognize and understand the subtle ways boys communicate connection
  • Reopen the lines of communication with your adolescent son
  • Help him learn to express his feelings and experience a range of normal emotions
  • Maintain strong emotional bonds with your son in order to support his positive growth and development

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  • Title Why Boys Don't Talk--And Why It Matters: A Parent's Survival Guide to Connecting with Your Teen
  • Author Susan Morris Shaffer; Linda Perlman Gordon
  • Binding Paperback
  • Edition number 1st
  • Edition 1
  • Pages 219
  • Volumes 1
  • Language ENG
  • Publisher McGraw-Hill Companies, Blacklick, Ohio, U.S.A.
  • Date December 9, 2004
  • Illustrated Yes
  • Features Bibliography, Illustrated, Index, Table of Contents
  • ISBN 9780071417877 / 0071417877
  • Weight 0.71 lbs (0.32 kg)
  • Dimensions 9 x 6.02 x 0.63 in (22.86 x 15.29 x 1.60 cm)
  • Themes
    • Sex & Gender: Masculine
    • Topical: Coming of Age
    • Topical: Family
  • Library of Congress subjects Masculinity, Parent and teenager
  • Library of Congress Catalog Number 2004011428
  • Dewey Decimal Code 305.235

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Citations

  • Booklist, 12/01/2004, Page 623
  • Library Journal, 12/01/2004, Page 154

About the author

Susan Morris Shaffer is a parenting expert, a nationally acclaimed gender equity specialist, and an educator with more than thirty years of experience.

Linda Perlman Gordon, M.S.W., M.Ed., is a clinical social worker, trained mediator, and a graduate of the prestigious Family Therapy Practice Center. They are coauthors of Why Girls Talk--and What They're Really Saying.

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